Responsible......Father / husband ????

I am a poor guy with simple ideas about life....but it appears that I have been "irresponsible" throughout, especially as a father and husband.




There are many meanings for "responsible"...here I refer to "chargeable with being the author, cause or occasion of something".




Yes. I am charged, I was charged and will be charged in the future too for being the cause of something......



Even though my father was in a decent position professionally and economically, when I started my professional life I hardly had any money in the bank.... I started my professional life late...because of the years spent on education.



Looking at the present day children, who are excellent in the planning, probably I did not give the kind of life a new wife would have loved to have... probably the life in Prentice was not the one my new wife expected in the US. My resources being meagre, I could not take her around US ... at least when the whole experience of marriage was new... may be I had failed in providing a decent house and life to her after returning to India... I do agree we three (Sheila, Indhu and I) lived along with many dozens of mice in Bhoiguda.... I could not provide her a Gas Stove to cook (it was difficult to get a Gas connection in those days and I did not have the required influence).... I was always poor in money management... so I did not offer many of the luxuries that a young wife would expect from her husband... I have been an "irresponsible" husband..... but I have always been truthful, loving and caring...may be I did not understand certain nuances of early days of marriage. After coming to Pune, our life had changed... I had long hours at the office, including Saturdays.... I longed for rest...so I did not take my wife and children out for sight seeing....instead I liked sleeping on Saturday afternoons and carrying out routines on Sundays...the earnings were just enough to have a decent life and not for luxury.

Since we lived away from our parents, all the LTA went for visiting Chennai, year after year....we did not see many places of interest in India.

Thodarum.....
(This will continue.....I will edit later.... I would like to publish it even though it is not complete as this is something I wrote in June and it may be appropriate alongside the Subrmanian blog)